Finding Love For More Than Just Valentine’s Day

From its very beginning to the modern-day, Valentine’s Day has been a time for celebrating love, sex, and marriage. Psychic Sofa is here to tell you all about this romantic holiday, what it means for your relationship, how to find love, and how to help it flourish. Call 0905 789 7752 (calls cost 80p per minute plus your network access charge) or 0161 864 0152 today for a Psychic Love Reading - or you can use our Psychic Sofa app. 

Valentine’s Day And What It Means For Your Relationship

The origins of Valentine’s Day are highly contested, but one thing is for sure - it is rooted in celebrating love, sex, and marriage (...in one way or another!).

Pagan Tradition

Some historians believe that Valentine’s Day was a Christianisation of a pagan feast day called Lupercalia, which was celebrated on 15th February - or, the ‘ides of February’. 

Lupercalia celebrated the Roman god of agriculture, the creation of Rome, and, more importantly, fertility. It was a lot bloodier, violent, superstitious, and sexually charged than the celebration we know today 

According to legend, all the unmarried women would place their names in an urn, of which the men would take a ‘lucky dip’. The matches would then, of course, fall in love, get married, and be blessed with fertility. 

St Valentine

As Lupercalia was outlawed upon the rise of Christianity, 14th February began to be known as St. Valentine’s Day, as declared by Pope Gelasius at the end of the 5th century. But here is where it gets confusing! 

There are at least three Catholic saints named Valentine it could be, of which we don’t know who this celebration is the namesake! All we know is that all three were martyred, and the men each had a part to play in legends of marriage and love. 

So, when did it become about love? 

As you can see, up until this point, Valentine’s Day is more about marriage and fertility than it is about romance. In fact, Valentine’s Day didn’t canonically become about romance until around the Middle Ages. 

For you book lovers, Valentine’s Day was first noted as a romantic celebration in English literary traditions in 1375 by none other than Geoffrey Chaucer in the poem ‘Parliament of Foules’- the power of books, right? 

How is Valentine’s Day celebrated? 

Traditionally, one would send a greeting to one’s Valentine - the earliest record of which is from 1415. The popularity of these exchanges boomed by the mid-18th century, with printed cards dispersing at the rise of the printing press. 

In the modern-day, partners are swept off their feet with cards, presents, roses, candlelit dinners, chocolates, and other romantic gestures. 

So, what does it mean for your relationship? 

Valentine’s Day is the perfect time to celebrate your emotional connection in romantic relationships. It doesn’t matter if you only just met on online dating or a dating app, or if you are in a long-term relationship with your life partner, Valentine’s Day can be an amazing bonding experience for all relationships alike. 

One of the biggest misconceptions about dating is that you must celebrate Valentine’s Day to be in a lasting relationship, but that’s not the case. Not celebrating Valentine’s Day does not always signify a bad relationship as, of course, it is more important to make time for people all year round, not just on one day. 

Though not celebrating the romantic holiday might trigger trust issues in a certain type of person, people who don’t celebrate are not inherently wishy-washy people or unavailable partners.  

The biggest issue in a loving relationship is communication -  remember, you might not always be around like-minded people. So, if you have had negative experiences in the past or don’t need one single day of the year to celebrate your romantic connection, reach out to your romantic partner and talk about it. 

How To Find Love And Help It Flourish

If you are a single person on Valentine’s Day, you may be feeling vulnerable or lonely. Even the hardest person, the most non-needy person, or seemingly happy person can suffer from a bit of FOMO, leaving you wondering how to find love. So, if you are questioning how to find love this Valentine’s Day, let’s take a look at some advice from a relationship expert. 

Sign Up For Internet Dating 

Online dating sites are becoming more and more popular in the age of technology. Dating sites and dating apps are a fantastic place to find a partner, all from the comfort of your own home. 

Go To Singles Events 

Have a look at local notice boards to see if there are any singles events - even if they are virtual events - in your area. Seeing the person face to face, even virtually, can help you to determine whether you and your potential partner have a connection.  

Spend Time In Places Where People Will Have A Common Interest 

If you are wondering how to find love, a more organic way is to have fun in places where people might share a common interest, such as a book shop - why not ask someone for advice on books, for example? Whilst you aren’t guaranteed to find your future partner, you might still find yourself making a genuine connection with someone, and at least get to check out some amazing books.

Don’t Be Afraid To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone 

When discovering how to find love, the key step is to address your issues and take the biggest step out of your comfort zone. This will open up the opportunity to have some amazing experiences. 

Never Put Pressure On Yourself - You’re An Amazing Person!

The most important thing to remember with how to find love is that you don’t need to put pressure on yourself or rush your change in relationship status. The most worthwhile relationship with the perfect partner might take you by surprise when you are least expecting it!

Get Dating Advice With Psychic Love Readings

If you are at a loss with how to find love, get in touch with one of our psychics today for an in-depth Psychic Love Reading from Psychic Sofa. Call 0905 789 7752 (calls cost 80p per minute plus your network access charge) or 0161 864 0152 today for a telephone psychic love reading, or use our Psychic Sofa app.