5 False Beliefs That Are Holding You Back

Humans are creatures of terrible habit. While we all want to be happy and prosperous in life, we also have a tendency to see the bad in everything.

Of course sometimes these beliefs are very true and helpful, but then again sometimes they’re not. We are creatures of terrible habit because we are easily fooled by our own false beliefs and subconscious thoughts.

We moan, we ponder and at times we can feel totally helpless; and the majority of the time we are led to believe that the problem doesn’t exist within ourselves but with world around us. It is the Universe -so full of intention and destiny- that has left us in this position. And we can’t do anything about it!

But it is this latter false belief that is the final nail in the coffin – we are quietly hindering our own potential to progress and live the life we want to lead... all because we are not looking internally for the cause of our grief.

Such a mistaken approach leaves us the victim of our own mind. Not only is it our mental wellbeing that suffers, but also our ability to create meaningful relationships with others and the world around us.

So what can we do about it?

Fortunately, there is a cure to our own self-made despair. The trick is to realise that these false beliefs exist in the first place and how they are twisting our viewpoint of the world. By seeing past our false beliefs we can look forward to the optimistic truth that was shielded from us in the first place. We can be released of all the negative baggage that came with our false beliefs and responsibilities.

Below is our list of 5 false beliefs that are holding you back, and how we can learn to overcome these viewpoints in order to lead happier and more positively realistic lives. 

#1 Your sense of self-worth is measured by how others view you

Are you convinced that the opinions of others matter? Do you seek approval from your peers for every little thing you do? Then you are most likely holding this false belief close to your chest.

Of course we value the opinions of others. But does the opinion of these people really mean anything when it causes us unnecessary stress?

The Answer: Be yourself. I mean it. Learn to be the real you, someone who doesn’t change how they act because someone else doesn’t like it. Embrace your flaws and personal traits. You’re the only person in the world like you.

#2 Negative experiences are bad and you must avoid them like the plague

Okay, none of us like to actively involve ourselves in something negative, but at the same time how can you know if something’s going to turn out to be bad if you haven’t lived it?

Do you stop yourself from going out because you get social anxiety? Have you held back in relationships because you don’t want to get hurt?

The Answer: You can’t control everything in life. Not every day is going to be a good day and you should learn to tolerate the bad. After all, there is no Yin without the Yang.

Take time to learn from these new events. Why do you believe they are negative and change your viewpoint. You may just grow to love the bad. 

#3 You can’t do anything to get out of your current life situation

Our lives have huge potential. Think back to when you were a kid and the sky was the limit. One day you wanted to be an astronaut, the next a flamingo farmer.

But just because you’ve grown out of these slightly unrealistic fantasies it doesn’t mean you can’t change your path at any given moment. Why can’t you try for that new job? Why shouldn’t you move house?

The Answer: Stop letting the fear of the possible future crush your potential happiness. Life is a continuous journey. We are given a unique opportunity as humans to create our own destiny. Don’t let your mind and fear stop you. OWN your fear and choose something new.

 #4 It’s too late

How old do you feel today? You may be pushing into your twilight years or only starting out in life but age is just a number - nothing more. There are many times in life when we think to ourselves that we’re too far gone and down a certain path to change, but is that really the case?

The Answer: It’s never too late. If you feel that you need a change, that it will be worthwhile and beneficial to your sense of self... then don’t let the false belief that “it’s too late” ever stop you. It isn’t. The only thing stopping you is yourself.

#5 It always seems to be you

Are you prone to bad luck? Do bad things seemingly happen to you and no one else? Chances are then that you have built up quite a hatred for the Universe for all that it’s put you through. But is this the Universes doing, or your own doing?

Do you always jump to the worst conclusion and do you always dwell on the negative?

The Answer: It’s not always you but you just like to think it is. This is one of the most common false beliefs about the Universe there is - that it’s all about you and that the Universe is conspiring against you.

So why do you believe this? Maybe you had a string of negative experiences at some point in your life. It’s never a nice thing when it happens, but if you get into the warped state of mind that bad things are happening to you for a reason... then they will. You are openly accepting the negative and going out of your way to see the bad.

The correct thing to do in this case is to look deeply inside yourself and change your habitual outlook on life. Try and see the positive instead of the negative. The Universe loves you. All you need to do is open your heart and eyes to this fact.